Thursday, November 8, 2012

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Zen ~ Wonder

Always be on the lookout for the presence of wonder.
                                                                       E.B. White

The universe has a way of confirming things if we are open to seeing these confirmations, and today I received one of those confirmations. The above quote came from my daily Zen calendar on Friday, and I saved it with the intent to post it here at some point. This morning I took an online inventory on the Spirituality & Practices site, and the spiritual practice suggested for me based on my responses to their survey is "Wonder". Truthfully, I feel that it is the largest part of my spiritual life - savoring the beauty that surrounds me everyday.

From Spirituality & Practice:
Wonder begins in the senses, comes alive in the imagination, and flourishes in adoration of the Divine. It arises from our natural curiosity about the grand adventure of life. It increases our capacity to be a bold inner space tripper and an avid explorer of the physical world. There is no end to the things that can awaken our wonder, from the majesty of the night sky to the smell of lilacs in the spring to the turning of the leaves in the fall. And it is all right here, a feast of epiphanies and astonishments in the daily round of our spiritual lives. The first step in this spiritual practice is to rejoice in the play of our senses: smell, touch, taste, hear, and see. Slow down and tune into the varied world of this and that. You'll never get anywhere with this practice by rushing.

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Friday, November 2, 2012

How to Be Miserable

Shared by my principal this morning ... perfect ...

By Alex Green

At a conference in Las Vegas a couple months ago, I had the opportunity to meet and chat with Dr. Joel Wade, a psychotherapist who has dedicated his career to discovering what it means to live well. As a life coach, his practice is about helping people create and embody a truly extraordinary life.

His lecture was "Mastering Happiness: Practical Skills and Ideas for Living Well." When Dr. Wade uses the word happiness, however, he isn't talking about more parties, laughter or high times. He's referring to something larger: having a sense that you are flourishing, of feeling fully satisfied with your life.

This is something we all desire, consciously or unconsciously, and virtually anyone can move closer to this ideal. Living a more satisfying life, Wade insists, is a skill that can be developed. It is mostly about the attitudes you embody and the choices you make. Like any skill, however, it requires time, attention and dedication.

To prove his point, Wade demonstrated how easy it is to feel miserable. All that's necessary are three simple steps:

1. Be as self-absorbed as possible. Make sure every situation at work or at home is primarily about your thoughts, your feelings, your welfare. Talk about yourself. Think about yourself. Make sure the point of every action is to accrue some personal benefit.

2. See yourself as a victim. Observe that life has conspired against you. View others as the source of your problems. Blame them for your frustrations and setbacks. Tell yourself that you are helpless in your particular set of circumstances.

3. Spend a lot of time ruminating. Go over past negative events again and again. Think about things that make you angry. Dwell on what makes you bitter. Remember how you were hurt in the past and who was responsible. Spend a lot of time reliving and re-experiencing these events in your mind.

Just reading this short list, you probably feel a little bummed out. People who make these steps a habit are well on their way to a life of dissatisfaction and misery.

The good news is that doing the opposite is a tonic - and will almost certainly add to your satisfaction with life. In other words:

1. Absorb yourself in your work, friends, family relationships and outside interests. Move your focus outside. Become absorbed in what you're doing. Remind yourself what you are trying to achieve. And if you don't have personal goals - dreams with deadlines - set some.

2. See yourself as in control of your destiny. We all have problems and setbacks, but things only begin to turn around when you take ownership of your situation. Then you can begin to move forward.

3. Focus on what's right with your life. This is a tall order in some cases. Many of us are dealing with unfortunate economic or personal circumstances. Still, you can't wallow in it. Accept that the past is past. Forgive any transgressors, not for their sake but for yours. Start imaging how things could improve. This is the predisposition to action.

Dr. Wade points out that the best way to achieve a higher sense of well being and life satisfaction is to cultivate a sense of gratitude. He suggests taking a moment each evening to recall three things that happened during the day to make you feel grateful. It could be a problem resolved, an unexpected call from a friend, a smile from someone you love or just a good meal on a starry night. Psychologists report it is impossible to feel grateful and unhappy at the same time.

These steps may sound simple - and they are. But that doesn't mean they can't make a profound difference in your quality of life. As the British essayist Erich Heller observed, "Be careful how you interpret the world; it is like that."

~ Chandler took this photo of our Sycamore tree ~